Runners Run

Why do runners “run” from those that love them the most?

Getting hurt by someone they love, strips them of everything they believed.

And everything they want others to believe about them.

“Runners” in a twin flame relationship appear to have it all together. They are stunningly intelligent, but behind that intellect they are broken – they wear a mask and they wear that mask so well. They are constantly, constantly hiding from their past, and their childhood traumas. It’s easier for them to pretend that their life is all good when in reality they have a huge insecurity and they are living in constant fear.

They manage to do a great job of covering it up from others looking in from the outside. They are afraid of getting hurt because at some point, they will. The love is so immense, it’s almost too much for them to handle.

In short… many of them are worried about what others will think of them, so they sacrifice their happiness. They are not using their heart to understand the connection they have with the chaser – they are using logic to reject that such a great love IS possible. They don’t believe they are worthy to be loved this much – so they run. They block. They ghost. They don’t respond. They know that with you, the chaser, that vulnerability comes easier than breathing.

But they can’t imagine life without you.

Most people are satisfied to have a warm body to sleep next to at night. They aren’t interested in more than that. They are sleepwalking through life. Runners return to their life of comfort – their life may not be ideal, it may be lacking in emotional vibrancy, but it’s comfortable.

It’s simple.

It’s easy.

They have developed a life a comfort. They don’t want to tilt the wheel. They might not be happy but they don’t want to upset the family dynamic. They are afraid of what people will say. They don’t want to start over. They don’t want to affect the lives of their kids (though I will say that it’s just as damaging to stay in a toxic marriage as it is to start over..) In short, their materialistic life is too important to them for them to disrupt what they have going.

So they run from real love.

Comfort, simplicity and ease doesn’t come with the one you desperately love the most – in fact, everything about being with that person you so desperately crave (your twin flame) seems like a challenge.  It requires getting out of your comfort zone. It requires a shift in all the things you have known and experienced about love thus far in your life – the societal norms.

Sometimes, your human self is afraid of BIG things. SO much in fact that you would prefer the security blanket of mediocrity.

Some people aren’t meant for mediocrity. They are meant to have an incredible purpose. Our spirits will not let us off the hook. Our ego wants what’s safe… what’s comfortable, but we know, deep down, that our soul craves for more.

Instead, or soul calls us up. No matter what the challenges, the trials, the tribulations – we are given heavy things because we ARE meant to be that powerful.