Constant Chase

The way I care for people, and about people, often times makes me wish I had somebody like me in my life that did the same for me.

But… I don’t, and life moves on.

I have always been quite kind to people. I will bend over backwards to help complete strangers… to make or help others feel loved. I will often times do this at the expense of myself – the same applies to my kids.

I will do anything to help them feel loved and cared for, the way I would love to feel.

I like to think that the reason why some people are so overly kind is because the world has been so unkind to them, that they don’t want other people to feel the way they did.

I know that is exactly why I try to be kind. I don’t want to be categorized as being like “everyone else”. I want to be unique, different… I hope, with everything I have, that one day, someone will come across me and say “Wow – I have never met anyone like you – I can’t lose that. I can’t lose YOU.”

But… here I am, it hasn’t happened yet.  The older I get, the more I realize that most people can’t handle the complexities of life. Deep relationships. Wholesome conversation. Meaningful interaction. Intentional living.

For me,  nothing is more important than my relationships with my loved ones – right now, that means my kids. Nothing else matters..

We have all been raised on the lie that to feel loved and appreciated you have to please everyone around you, and your worth depends on what people think of you. So many people spend the rest of their lives trying to impress everyone – even those who truly don’t care about you at a deep level. People are busy projecting their insecurities on you and you live in the fear of rejection.  But something happens when you finally awaken – when you grow as a person – you see through all this crap.

You start accepting yourself for who YOU are.

You start living for impressing yourself. Not others.

The biggest source of inner peace and freedom is living life and loving yourself and not looking for outward validation or approval from others.

You start to live intentionally. … As you look around, you begin to notice how people are wrapped up in image and social standing – from Facebook to Instagram, Snapchat and Tik Tok. They’re looking for belonging, validation, attention, notoriety.

Except that they will never achieve that.

It’s a never ending black hole that they’ll chase, and chase, and chase some more.

Validation is a form of perfectionism, and perfectionism is the worst standard you can ever hold yourself to.

To free yourself of external validation, social media, and belonging is to free yourself of the prison you’re in – constant empty information and fake communication. The freedom to manage your life in a more productive, self-fulfilling way.