INFJ’s are introverts who love people. The INFJ is empathetic to the needs of others around them. However, there are 5 types of people that are unacceptable to an INFJ.

INFJ’s are rare – they make up less than 3% of the population.  They stand out as different from the norm and have their own set of strengths and challenges. Being an INFJ female is even more rare and unique – especially when compared to other female types.

INFJ females tend to be overlooked and misunderstood. They are often times quiet and don’t seem to mind being alone. INFJ women spend most of their time deep in thought – which is why small talk and shallow conversations are uninteresting to them.

Down to their core, the INFJ is someone who loves to connect with others – they care deeply about meaningful, authentic relationships.  Kindhearted and willing to lend a hand, it’s hard to believe that there are some people that INFJ’s just can’t get along with.

Here are 5 types of people that INFJ’s simply cannot get along with and will stay clear of and try to avoid.

5 Types of People INFJ’s Cannot Stand

When it comes to an INFJ, these types of people are unacceptable – we will have a strong reaction to them. This comes down to how we see the world and how we see people.

Other people.

#1: The Bully

While other people can or may tolerate the bully-type of person in public – others (the INFJ) has such a strong opinion about.

I think this might be due in part to how we grew up as kids – perhaps it’s likely that we were bullied, and so we find it highly concerning when someone else is bullied and it’s hard for us to stand along the sidelines and watch someone have  to endure that.  As children, we learned to hide, or be someone else – but as we got older, we realized that we can no longer hide quite as easily. Perhaps we built up a level of confidence that gives us a voice of reason to stand in and identify that bully when we see him or her in action.

It also comes down to our high empathetic qualities – we would never bully another, so it’s hard for us to imagine someone else being bullied. If an INFJ spots a bully, we will quickly step in, and make it known that it is unacceptable.

#2: The Person Who Needs a Following

There are people, in every day life, that need to have a following – they need someone to admire them, look up to them. They want people to see them as a leader.

Hello… Me here 💁‍♀️

I am an INFJ and this is something that rings SO true!

INFJ’s are SO independent – we don’t want to be followers and we don’t want anyone following what we are saying. We want very person to be independent like we are – to have their own opinions, make their own choices – that feels natural to us!

So when we see a person who has to have people with some type of insecurity look up to them in order for validation, and constant admiration – that’s a huge red flag!  Those people who need a following appear weak, uninteresting, and most of all – disingenuine.

We would never want to be friends with someone like that.  Out of honesty, we would never be able to be friends with someone like that due to our inability to take them seriously.

#3: The Rule Follower

This all comes down to the fact that INFJ’s are so independent. Rule followers are concerned about following the rules so they can be accepted by society, be part of the majority, play their role – they need to have their place in the system.

That runs counter to everything the INFJ is about. People who follow the rules many times demand other people fit in that same mold of following the rules  – and that’s when people become unkind, condescending, and intolerant of people that are different from the majority. INFJ’s struggle with people who can’t accept them for being different.

The INFJ lives outside of the box, thinks outside of the box, and operates outside of the box.  We don’t feel the necessity to play by certain rules.

Likewise, we are great at being tolerant of those who are different because we, ourselves, are different.

 

#4: The Superficial Person

Superficial people are those that believe in doing all kinds of things for the ego. They are often times people who base their worth on their income, material status, possessions, and the like.

Many people are more like this in their younger years, but it can sometimes continue as they progress through life.

INFJ’s know that true meaning is not the position you hold, and possessions you own – it’s not reality. Instead, we try to be honest and value others for who we are and how we act with eachother. Consequently, someone who is too concerned about money or material objects may be a big turn-off for them.

We try to connect with people on a human level, while the others are so interested in resting in their power. More times than not, when we don’t match with these types of people, the INFJ will often walk away – we know these people aren’t a match for us and instead of exerting energy, we will simply cut those people out of our lives or reduce contact completely.

Superficial people are not evolved, flat, lacking substance and depth – all of which are a turn off for INFJ’s.

#5: Someone with Low Moral Values

We can be really kind to someone – we can tolerate differences of perspectives, and opinions. But when it comes down to breaking our own moral code, we lose respect for people quickly once we realize they don’t have high moral values.

High moral values are subjective to each INFJ – they include things we value, find to be our standard. If we find out that someone has low moral values, we may stop caring about those people altogether.

Does this Mean that INFJ’s will Always be Alone?

There are people out there that will understand an INFJ, and accept us for who we are. We just have to determine what people we need in our life on a specific distance – psychologically, emotionally, mentally.

INFJ’s always look out for that “one” partnership – a holistic set of acquaintances that make us feel complete and whole. You don’t have to accept everyone or put your hopes in one person.

The most important part is that INFJ’s need to make themselves clear to others – there are items that you/we value that are non-negotiable. Make your moral code clear.

Show love, empathy, and most of all, understanding – the more open you are about that, the more you will attract the right people in your life that will vibe at the same level as you.